Tag: communication

Natty Bumpercar: hey bumper podcast it's me natty but it's your best friend i don't even have to say my name you know it is you're my i mean you're my best friend so you're i'm your best you know what we are best friends together and that's and hooray for that hooray for having best friends uh i can rely on you i can count on you you're gonna pick me up when i'm down vice versa if i got a couch that needs to be moved then you're you're gonna you probably come help me move it you know and and i'm gonna what what's that you need help building that fence i'm coming over to help you build that fence let's barbecue together let's you know what sure we'll go to brunch of course i love brunch just not i mean because it's not too early here's the problem with brunch though is the kids are already gonna have been up for like six hours at that point so it's really lunch for us i mean it's breakfast i know but we're not rolling out of bed at 10 and meeting you at the restaurant we've we've already been out of bed for a long time but you know what that's fine we're still best friends me and you uh i love having best friend uh it's fun it's good fun my uh my kid is going through this thing at school where it's uh everyone's labeling each other as best friends oh hey that guy's your best friend i don't want to be and then they get sad because if one person is one person's best friend then obviously they can't be best friends with the other person and so it becomes this like uh um not animal farm but that book uh lord of the flies it's not really like that but it where it's just like you know oh you're best friends with that dude and he's like i thought we were best friends and he's like no i'm now best friends with that dude and so there's a lot of weird social things that are going on and i'm like oh my god i'm not at school which is great because you know as if we don't have enough going on in life now we're dealing with weird social stigmas and social norms and social structures ah and uh the other thing too is it's a fun moving target so you know like on one day you're this person's best friend by the end of the day you might have switched best friends two or three times so and i don't know literally they're standing in line and they're just like blink funny and they're like now i'm her best friend or what um i don't know but i know it causes stress because he's like i thought you know that we were best friends and now i'm best friends with and it's just like bro relax it's okay and we're gonna try to tell him like listen if uh somebody's you know not not just the best stuff but if somebody's not being nice to you one day there's a lot of other people in your class that you like that you're friends with go play with those other people it's fun it's good if you know like spread yourself out hit a lot of bases make sure you're friends with as many people as you can be friends with because more friends is better more friends is more gooder that's what i always say uh but even with that being said we're good right you and me bumper podcast we're still besties right bffs best friends for life forever forever right i had somebody once uh i forget what it was it was a situation i didn't want to be in and uh it was uh i was introduced to some people who i really had not much interest in meeting and uh one of them kind of cornered me and he goes we've been waiting to meet you for a long time now that we got you you ain't never getting away from us again like that and in my head it was like all sorts of warning lights and sirens going off and i was just like oh my friend you'll never be seeing me again and they didn't they didn't ever see me again uh if i'm to be honest um yeah it's weird like people don't people have a hard time talking to people and dealing with people have you noticed that in this world like uh for me i love communication i'm all about communication i'm all about communication i'm all about communication about it let's hey the open lines of communication uh but so the difficult thing with that is you're you're worrying about people's self-esteem people's egos and so you have to consider what you're saying which is fine because you want to be considerate right you were in a society and so you want to be considerate of other other people's emotions and how they feel about things and how things are going to affect them the things you're going to say right so it makes sense that you have to uh not censor the stuff that you're saying a little bit here and there but that you at least have to think about oh my gosh what i have to think about the things i'm saying yes come on come on that's obvious think about what you're going to say to people and then go up to them and have a conversation and treat them pull them you know let's let's all be on the same level and let's all have a conversation i have a hard time with uh institutionalized structures so what that means is like i always had a hard time in school where there was uh you know there's people who were over you there's there's a principal there's a teacher and they're in positions of power even nowadays i have sometimes problem with position people in positions of power uh because it's always been my thinking that hey let's if we have an issue let's lay it on the table and let's hash it out let's figure it out let's get to the bottom of it let's work together let's use you know constructive criticism i'm all about it and let's uh let's figure out what's going on let's work together i love working together that's at work that's what i do i like to facilitate people working together at my job like i try to pull people in from different departments people who don't talk as much all the time and because if you get different people from uh different backgrounds and with different viewpoints then that's going to broaden the information pool and you're going to lead that's going to lead you to potentially better solutions because if you're only looking at a problem in one way then you might not crack it you might not see if you're looking at a house and you can't get in and you're staring at it you're looking at the front all the windows are locked the door is locked you don't have a key you might not realize that the back door you know is open and you can just walk right in and that's where the party is um and so i try to do that in as many aspects of my life as i can i like and i always i get in trouble because i'm like let's just talk to me like a human and that's that's not a nice thing to say either and i understand that um but it's true like you know you came from a different background that i came from but we should and i you know you do this with people i try to talk to kids this way i try to talk to anyone that i'm dealing with at a store or at a gas station like anyone you're talking to i try to talk to my boss this way which gets me in trouble sometimes i um ah here's a sorry about that here's a crazy uh boss story this happened to me the other day i wasn't even thinking i was on a uh i was on a conference call and uh so there was something was being mentioned and there was somebody who wasn't on the call and i uh went and i called that person and i was just like hey just so you know they're talking about your thing and uh he just mentioned this so there was nothing nothing bad i mean i didn't say anything bad i wasn't like man this this guy whoa what did he what is he thinking he said oh this guy but as it turned out the uh the conference call had not muted me uh and there was no way to mute myself and so then i found out that they in fact had heard my conversation and i i mean pit in my stomach ice in my veins because i was going through and parsing every word that i had said just to make sure that there wasn't any any way that anything that i had said could be misconstrued whatever i was just like oh bad and then i was just like did i say anything how did i say anything weird and i couldn't remember but i eventually uh after deep hypnosis and therapy i figured out that i didn't really say anything oh thank goodness for that and but the point of that is is uh just don't say things bad about people and you'll be okay and i don't always follow that i try to follow that but it's a hard thing to follow sometimes try to be as nice to everybody as you can because you know and i uh i like to say we're all in this together but i don't know current times i i feel like maybe we're not all in this together but i feel a lot of people are in this together uh looking for progress looking for you know hopeful change uh for the better uh not change for the individual's sake but change for everyone's sake and i that's how i feel like it should be now that i have kids i want the whole world to be a good place i want the whole world to be a happy place and sometimes i feel like uh people chasing that almighty dollar might not be making have their focus on making the world a better place um but i don't know man i just don't know you know it's a crazy world out there so tell me about yourself i've been babbling for a long time here uh friend oh what are you doing you're going you're going you're going to enjoy it the nice weather this weekend you're going to go out and play we've been going to the park ah ollie rode a bicycle for the first time last week at the park uh we had we got him a bike for his birthday and put some air in the tires and was on a scooter ollie was on the bike just pedaling and getting furious because it's hard to explain to a kid pedal forward pedal forward that means you're going forward if you push back that means you put the brakes on what are brakes brakes i don't want to stop okay exactly so pedal forward pedal forward and that's what i want the world to do too i want it to pedal forward pedal forward